WOW! This is a letter from my mom just an hour ago or so. What she wrote to me is so moving and powerful!:
Subject: Your project
Wow, you really tell it like it is… (was) in that first chapter. I know that a lot of your friends can relate to your lifestyle before the accident, and it’s probably intense for many parents whose kids were “out there living La Vida Loca” in their twenties.. And makes no sense to parents whose kids were not.
William Barclay said “There are two great days in a person’s life – the day we are born and the day we discover why.”
I remember pacing the floors at the ICU on the umbilical cord of my cell phone and Anna McDermott saying to me ” think about what we all did in our twenties… There’s no reason any of us should be alive!!!
On June 6, 2011, I received this email from Anna;
There are so many things I have wanted to express to you over the last four weeks but it never seemed like the right circumstances. I have watched you and your process for thirty years now and continue to be amazed, impressed (occasionally a little scared) and forever grateful that you are in my life.
Now I watch as you experience another horror, that of traumatic brain injury. I know that you will not only become an expert but will have a dramatic impact on the lives of people who have to suffer the same experience.
I don’t know why this is your path but I know that it is a worthy one. My love and respect for you knows no bounds.
I also want you to know that Cavin is going to be with us. He is part of our future. And I believe he will be a significant teacher to us as we struggle through the aging process. I trust this feeling and know it to be true.
She and I talked many times and she would repeatedly tell me that in 5 years we were going to be amazed by where your “soul’s path” took you. Anna has also had such a special intuition…as you know, she was present at your birth and helped me “divine” your unusual name, which took weeks. She “knows” you. I trust her intuition implicitly. But, who would have thought that it would be YOU who would be researching and publishing blogs and spreading your knowledge as you came to it, a mere year after such an injury that I was told would probably leave you completely incapacitated.
Anna was right… Your soul does have a path, and while you may be working towards “the day you discovered why”…. from all the people who have contacted you seeking consolation, resources, and answers, I can tell that you are on it.
And to borrow a line from my dearest friend “my love and respect knows no bounds”.
You are everything I knew you were….and more. And you’re hard to keep up with!!
My love, my son,